I do not help my wife :)

​I DO NOT HELP MY WIFE 🙂
A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you  help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You  said thank you
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!
Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! ”

-revert muslim Brother Tee Edwards

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Secrets of fasting 

Dear beloved, fasting is not just a worship …it is a treatment and healing for many diseases …it is a renewal method for our body cells and the activity of the entire body…as a result it is to renew our entire life and when we realize benefits offasting we really touch its sweetness, Allah Almighty says: (O you who believe! Observing As-Saum (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqun) {Sûrat Al-Baqarah-The Cow-verse 183 }.
The scientists confirm that the best cure for the accumulation of poisons in the body is the fasting because it helps in cleaning the cells from these poisons ,prophet Mohamed peace be upon him says :” fasting is a protection” {narrated by Muslim}. Indeed it is a protection from many diseases by increasing the activity of our cells.
Physicians assure that fasting activates our immune system …as the resistance of the body increases against all diseases. The immune system is a group of soldiers who guards the body from many viruses and harmful bacteria. Hence fasting is an effective weapon to help the body to defend itself. 
A medical fact: fasting is a main reason behind the long life!!!! Many non-Muslims had authored many books about the different benefits of fasting and they concluded that frequent fasting people lives longer than those who don’t fast!! Glory to Allah Almighty who prescribed the fasting for us as He Almighty says: (O you who believe! Observing As-Saum (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqun){Sûrat Al-Baqarah-The Cow-verse 183 }.
– Many scientific studies confirm that the best food for fasting people is “dates” with water because it contains all needed vitamins, sugars and minerals, hence the prophet says in the prophetic hadith ”when you break your fasting eat dates and if you don’t have dates drink water”{narrated by Abu- Dawood}.

Recent studies confirm that the ideal time to stop the smoking habit is the holy month of Ramadan!! Because fasting cleans the cells from the poisons of the tobacco , so Ramadan helps smokers to give up smoking as long as they sincerely supplicates Allah Almighty to support them to do that …it is amazing to know that non- Muslims are using fasting to cure smokers from smoking, what about us as Muslims? 
Many scientific studies say that praying helps in the healing from many diseases such as back pains and joints pains. Also the submissiveness during praying has a strange power in curing many chronic diseases especially during fasting. Allah Almighty says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know){SĂ»rat Al-Baqarah-The Cow-verse 184}. 
Recent scientists suggest fasting as a new method to treat obesity because the fasting helps in dissolving fats and organizing the hormones to get a perfect body, the medical fact says: fasting is the easiest way to treat obesity.
The scientists say that fasting increases the power ofour brain!! As fasting increases the ability for creation! And is considered to be the best way to activate the cells of the brain to reprogram it, increase its ability and the self-healing. Therefore Allah Almighty says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {Sûrat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}.
A medical fact says that fasting reprograms our cells!!Many researchers had noticed many radical changes inside the systems of the body of the fasting people. It includes the physiological and psychological side. The frequent fasting breaks down the growth of tumor cells, and many scientists confirm that fasting for long times enhances the performance of the entire body which decreases the probability to be infected by cancer.
The scientists confirm that fasting helps in weight reducing, getting rid of the poisons, reduce pain and inflammation and increasing the concentration. Also, fasting is a kind of food saving and one of its greatest benefits is that the fasting people are satisfied because they feel that they played a main role to enhance their health, Allah Almighty summarized all of the previous in just a few words as He says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {SĂ»rat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}. 
Recent physicians approved one of the most important scientific facts that fasting helps to cure back pains, neck pains and backbone pains. A new study confirmed that fasting is a successful treatment for joints pain if the patient is performing the fasting for a continuous month (holy month of Ramadan)!!Don’t we realize the greatness of fasting to taste the sweetness of the holy month of Ramadan? 
Many scientists confirm that fasting is an operation without a surgery! As fasting cures stones in the kidney and the gallbladder, malignant tumors and liver. Many researchers say that fasting succeeds in many impossible missions where surgery operations fail! Allah Almighty says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {Sûrat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}.
A new scientific study confirms that healthy nutrition and the fasting activates the brain and protects from dementia as many scientists say: “the healthy nutrition and fasting from time to time stimulates the brain” and they confirm that eating dates and vegetables after fasting (breaking the fasting) reduces the possibility to be infected by dementia or brain attack. They assure that fasting plays a vital role in activating the brain cells to make it works more effectively. Allah Almighty says:(And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {Sûrat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}.
The scientists say that the fasting man preserves many of his energy because of the refraining from food and drink; it means that the effective energy of the fasting man is at the top during the holy month of Ramadan! At that holy month it is easy to memorize the Qur’an!! We don’t have to forget that the Qur’an was descended in Ramadan.
Fasting cures many chronic diseases in the digestive system such as colon spasms and digestive disorders because fasting activates and organizes the blood cells, the brain and the heart. Also fasting reduces weight and maintains the body from the poisons. Allah Almighty says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {Sûrat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}.
Fasting is an effective method to protect us from the psychological disorders and there are many studies to confirm that the fasting helps in treating depression and to calm down hyperactive positions in the brain where usual and chemical drugs fails to treat these chronic psychological disorders. Don’t we get benefits of this great worship?
A medical fact says: ”fasting renews the blood cells” from the first moment of fasting cells start to renew itself especially the blood cells and the lazy cells starts to work effectively. The scientists say that fasting is a continuous maintenance and cleaning operation for the entire body as the body needs that kind of maintenance once a year! This is the holy month of Ramadan. Glory to Allah Almighty who orders us to perform this great worship.
The scientists say that fasting cures more than one hundred disease! Such as high blood pressure, diabetic, chronic asthma, respiratory diseases, heart diseases, Arteriosclerosis, many liver diseases and skin diseases such as allergy and the chronic eczema.
Many researchers say that fasting is a treatment for many diseases and it is an effective weapon against heart diseases , cancer ,and prevents form dementia and brain attack, here we realize why prophet Mohamed peace be upon him says in the prophetic hadith: “fasting is a protection” {narrated by Muslim}. 
Recent scientists had studied the healing effects of fasting and they concluded that fasting is the best method for treating the accumulated poisons in the cells! Fasting has many magnificent effects as it preserves our cells and is considered to be the most successful method to eliminate different diseases, viruses and bacteria. In fact there are many centers in some western countries that perform healing by fasting!! Despite the failure of modern medicine to treat some cases, fasting succeeded to treat these cases so Allah Almighty orders us to fast as He Almighty says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {SĂ»rat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}. 
– One of the marvelous facts is that eating dates organize functions of the liver and helps to getting rid of poisons. When a person breaks the fasting by eating dates it considered to be the best natural medicine to maintain the liver from the accumulated poisons. Also the researchers confirm that eating dates continually prevents from liver diseases. Now we understand why the prophet peace be upon him used to break his fasting by dates and also he used to eat dates every morning!!! 
The scientists found that fasting doesn’t harm diabetics as long as they are under medical supervision but it helps them to be treated. They say the reason behind that is the good and stable psychological status of the fasting diabetics as they are surrounded by calm and peace where the disorders and anxiety are far away, and that helps in the effective organizing of the work of different organs such as functions of the pancreas, Allah Almighty says: (And that you fast, it is better for you if only you know) {SĂ»rat Al-Baqarah- The Cow-verse 184}. 
Many scientific studies showed that fasting is a free way to renew and activate cells of the body as the fasting doubles the life of these cells! Hence the scientists confirm that there is a direct relation between fasting and the long life and good health. Fasting is the best way to clean the cells which delays aging.
Many chronic and high blood pressure patients are treated by chemical medicines with limited results. But fasting is